"Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye." Matthew 7:1-5
God put the above scriptures on my heart, because I am currently going through something in which it applies.
Have you ever been falsely accused and judged by someone? I'm sure if anyone has lived long enough on this earth, they have been plagued by this by either family or friends. People have the innate tendency to judge others without being privy to all the details. They get a snapshot of something, and then build their entire case around it. They come up with their own conclusions and fill in the blanks with their own stories. They come up with their own theories which are not at all based on reality or truth whatsoever. They don't have the facts, but yet whatever they make up suits them fine, even if it's wrong.
Unfortunately, judging seems to be the modern day plague of the church. Jesus speaks of grace, love and forgiveness, but we as believers tend to be the worst to each other when it comes to judging.
I can say I've been a victim of people's false judgements, criticisms, accusations, claims, etc. It is very hurtful and damaging to say the least. My tendency is to want to set the record straight and exonerate myself. However, God continues to remind me to hold my peace. In His Word He shows me that in His time, He will reveal the truth and my accusers will be put to shame. (Psalm 71:24).
The tendency for us, as believers, is to want to do something about what is being said or done and fix it. You are aware that things are being thought and said about you and you want to do something about it. You are privy to all the gossip, slander and false judgments... and so you just want to walk over to that person or persons and let them have it. Sound familiar?
Believe me, I can totally relate. Which is why, most times, I don't hold my peace. I'm the confrontational type. I really don't have any tolerance for hypocrites, gossipers or slanderers. If I have something to say, I've learned to go directly to the person. But I know it is very tempting and easy to get sucked into gossip. However, gossiping is wrong. (Proverbs 20:19) If you have an issue with someone, you really should deal directly with that person.
But, most people are not confrontational, they are passive aggressive. They put up a front, meanwhile they are thinking and saying things behind your back. But when they see you, they pretend everything is fine, when it's actually not. It can be quite confusing.
I don't know what it is, but God gave me discernment early on and I tend to see right through all of that. I don't know why people waste their time trying to pretend when it's blatantly obvious. Perhaps they think they are doing a great job masking it or something. It's actually quite the opposite, but this is frail humanity for you.
I can't be fake, it's just not in my DNA. Some people do a really good job at hiding or masking their feelings. But I'm not one of those people. The bottomline is this, when you have an issue with someone, just go speak to them. Because if you don't... sooner or later, the truth will come to light and it will be exposed for the ugly infection that it is. Most people seem more comfortable with putting bandaids and pretending the problem away, than actually dealing with it. Another word for that is... Denial.
I challenge you today, to move out of your comfort zone and operate in truth. There is only freedom from bondage when you untangle yourself from all the lies and deception and move toward truth. The truth shall set you free, not lies. You are better off knowing the truth than making up your own stories, coming up with your own theories or by gossiping.
At the end of the day, we all get offended. Who doesn't get offended? If you are a human being living on planet earth, you are bound to get offended at some point. But the true test comes with what you do with the offense? Will you bury it? Will you deny it? Will you run from it? - OR - Will you look at it? Will you confront it? Will you deal with it? Will you reconcile it? These are questions we all have to answer for ourselves.
God ultimately reads the motives of our hearts and He knows our thoughts too. We can't hide anything from Him. He knows everything about us, to the minute detail. You can perhaps justify why you are offended, why you do what you do, why you are gossiping, why you are judging and why you are slandering? But it ultimately comes down to this... it's wrong.
So why not do some spring cleaning of our hearts and begin with a clean slate by examining ourselves? Do you have an offense against a brother or a sister in Christ that you refuse to let go of ? Why not talk to them about it? Instead of holding a grudge or speaking badly about them to others. Believe me, it's easy to hold a grudge... but it gets you nowhere.
As I was mentioning above, I find it challenging to hold my peace when I'm wronged and allow God to avenge me. I'm the type that takes matters into my own hands and address things head on. I'm a doer. I have no qualms about confronting anyone. Especially if I believe something is blatantly wrong. However, there are times when God just wants me to wait on Him. He doesn't want me taking matters into my own hands. He wants to work out the details in my life. I have to admit... He does do a much better job setting people straight than I ever will that's for sure.
So if people are talking falsely about you or gossiping behind your back... take heart... God is with you and He will avenge you. He allows all things to happen for a reason and for our growth. Through these adverse situations, which are no fun, we actually learn how to lean on God more and trust Him to fight our battles for us. (1 Samuel 17:45-47) The battle is not yours. If we wait on Him, He will give us the victory.
To all you Mother's out there... Happy Mother's Day. I am looking forward to spending some peaceful and quality time with my husband and two little boys. We aren't doing anything fancy, just spending it together which is more than enough for me. The gift is that my family is healthy and happy; I need nothing more than that.
The Battle is Not Yours by Yolanda Adams http://youtu.be/GXbV1axOxZ8