Thursday, April 26, 2012

There is Hope through the Shame

I was debating on whether I should write this.  But after having a DM (direct message) conversation on Twitter with someone I admire last night, I decided to come out.

I first want to tell you about the person I admire; George Molho.  I recently came across him stumbling upon a book review of his recent memoir, Scarred.  I then began following his articles with the Huffington Post.

Scarred is on my "must read" book list.  Here is a brief description of his memoir:
In 1978, seven-year-old George Molho was kidnapped by his own father. For a year, he survived mental and physical abuse to the point of torture. He found it easier to get used to hell, instead of hoping that heaven was around the corner. George eventually escaped, but surviving the aftermath proved to be much more difficult.
Can you imagine what he went through and endured at the hand of his father?  The thought alone makes me shudder and my guts wrench. He was only seven years old, the age of my eldest son.

But do you know what I find amazing?  He didn't become a statistic.  He didn't allow this horror to defeat him.  But instead, by God's grace he chose to overcome evil by doing good.  He is a hero.

George Molho is a voice being used by God for this generation.  He uses his gift of writing to communicate and help bring awareness to this world.  I happen to be one of the people he is helping and influencing.

Although I haven't nearly experienced what he's been through.  I do understand the nightmare of abuse.  So I can identify with him, which is why I found his recent Huffington Post article, Tackling Shame very helpful.

The word "shame" conjures up a lot and has been a reoccurring theme lately.  I decided to look up the exact meaning of the word:
Shame: A painful emotion caused by a strong sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness, or disgrace.
Sadly, this is precisely how I feel most of the timeShame is such a powerful emotion which can also be masked or hidden behind other emotions, such as anger. 

Shame is the result of abuse or violation.  Abuse tears at the very core of your being, strips your identity and makes you see life through dark, cloudy or warped glasses.

I honestly wish I didn't have to go through what I went through.  Because as a result, I wage war daily with the onslaught of bad memories, negative thoughts and emotions which is attributed to the abuse.

I also wish I could tell you there was a quick or easier way to overcome your abuse, but there isn't.  Healing from abuse and trauma is an ongoing, day by day process, much like sanctification.  What keeps me going is my faith and realization that I could have been a statistic too.  By the grace of God, I'm still standing. I'm still fighting the good fight.  I am a survivor, an overcomer and I have the victory. Guess what? You do too! Hallelujah, praise God!!

I am writing this blog to encourage those who think or believe that it's all over.  It isn't.  Yes, it is hard and overwhelming, but not without hope or possibility.  We have the victory in Jesus!

 "But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible." (Matthew 19:26)

 "For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities". (Hebrews 4:15) 

Collins English Dictionary defines infirmity as:
1. the state or quality of being infirm

2. physical weakness or debility; frailty

3. a moral flaw or failing
Jesus Christ is our high priest who makes intercession for us (Romans 8:34) You are not alone, He is with you, so please don't give up.  I can attest that things do get better as you heal.  There is definitely a light at the end of the tunnel.  There is much to live for even in the midst of the hurt, pain and scars. 

My prayer is that you will be encouraged today and know that there is hope through the shame.

Please be sure check out George Molho's website and read his helpful articles with the Huffington Post. You can also friend him on Facebook and follow him on Twitter.

In conclusion, I want to share this inspiring song: Survivor by Glacia Robinson, I hope it blesses you.


Lore Ferguson said...

Love this =) Thanks for sharing.

Pilar Arsenec said...

Thank you for taking the time to read it. :)